Talking to Yourself – Offline Exercise #2

What’s the value of these exercises?

Our offline exercises follow key principles of disciplines such as Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), Coaching, and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), all of which focus on the person taking responsibility within their own process.

The more your inner self, your subconscious, recognises its own role in the change you’re making – and the more it feels it has control over that change, the deeper and longer-lasting that change will be.

The first purpose of “Talking to Yourself” is to take your subconscious through a ‘myth-busting’ exercise, challenging whether those ‘reasons why not’ are really valid.

The second purpose is to remind yourself of all that you have going for you, all the things you’re capable of and all the things you have to celebrate in life, big or small.

The third purpose is to talk to a part of yourself and ask why it does what it does – almost as a loving parent might talk to a child or a teen – and to start the process of understanding and acceptance of change.


Nothing here is set in stone. 

It’s important to approach these exercises with flexibility and to ‘find your own way’. You’ll make discoveries as you go through the process and you may find it useful to revisit these exercises from time to time in the course of your programme. 

Get in the zone for these exercises! Listen to this programme “Really? That’s What It’s About?”



You may find this exercise demanding, rewarding and fun – all at the same time! Familiar with that inner voice that always finds ‘reasons why not’? The time has come to challenge these as the myths they almost always are….

Familiar with that inner voice that always finds ‘reasons why not’? The time has come to challenge these as the myths they almost always are…. These myths usually arise from one of three sources:

  • Things
  • People
  • Self

Take time to identify and describe your myths – and then the ways they can be turned around or the reasons they aren’t actually true. No “Ifs” or “buts”. For example, if you learnt to do something complex such as to read or to ride a bike or to tie your shoelaces as a child, then – yes! – you can do ‘stuff’!

Download PDF of "Talking To Yourself" Self-Help Exercise

Celebrations, Big & Small

It’s recommended that you do this simple, but impactful exercise every day, whether you’re in the course of a programme or not!

  • Because we’re wired to the negative, too often we forget or undervalue both the things that ARE good about ourselves and the things that we should be grateful for.
  • The more we remind ourselves of even the small things (for example, making someone smile when they’re having a tough day at work) the more we reassure ourselves of positive possibilities in life, and the less dramatic the negatives seem.
  • You might find it interesting to ‘step out of yourself’ and write these sections as if looking at yourself from a different point of view – from the viewpoint of someone whose opinion you trust and respect!

Download PDF of "Talking To Yourself" Self-Help Exercise

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